5 keys to a successful co-parenting arrangement!

 

“Single, active and independent young woman looking for a man to conceive a child”, “Divorced man, 42 years old, looking for a partner for conceiving a child and raising it every other week”. These are just a couple of ads that can be found nowadays on websites that specialize in co-parenting!

It is becoming more and more common for men and women to turn to co-parenting as a way of having a child. In other words, it is a man and a woman who decide to unite without a romantic relationship and without living together for the purpose of having and raising a child in joint custody.

The co-parents get involved in the child’s life since the conception. This is a mission that requires know-how and, above all, responsibility so that the child can grow up under the best conditions.

Are you wondering about how to ensure the success of your child’s co-parenting? For a comprehensive answer, please read this article!

 

Co-parenting and judicial situation

To date, there is no legislation that considers that a child must have two parents. Co-parenting should not be considered as adoption. On the other hand, some legal decisions such as article 377-1 of the French Civil Code have allowed social parents to claim certain parental rights.

 

How to ensure a perfect co-parenting arrangement?

 

 

• 1/ Emphasize the well-being of the child

 

 

Confidence and self-esteem both represent a feeling founded on the child’s abilities and potential. From an early age, children always try to compare themselves to other children and to evaluate themselves. Self-confidence is something that is earned, built and acquired over time for the child. It is necessary, in your role as a co-parent, to value your child’s psychology and to ensure that your child’s self-esteem remains strong.

 

 

• 2/ Provide positive co-parenting

 

 

The ideal co-parenting is above all a positive co-parenting. It is necessary to begin by teaching your child that happiness, joy and optimism have never been gifts from heaven so that he or she can understand how things really work. By talking to your little one about the importance of positive thoughts and happiness, you are training them to deal with their negative emotions. It is also the best way to prepare your child to assume responsibilities.

 

 

• 3/ Understand the psychology of your child

 

 

Child psychology is both complex and easy to understand! As a co-parent, you need to understand how the child thinks. There are several signs that will help you to decode your child’s behavior. Fear, tantrums and even depression are part of a child’s normal development. In fact, children try to develop their autonomy and independence throughout this period. Although some of these episodes last only a few minutes, others can last for hours.

 

 

• 4/ Always find free time for your child

 

 

Many studies have shown that children who do not engage in any activity are the most withdrawn into themselves. These children develop negative emotions and painful thoughts and are more likely to withdraw into themselves as a means of avoiding contact with the outside world.

Your mission as a co-parent is mainly to communicate with your little one to discover the activity that interests him or her the most. A couple of hours of sport every weekend will ensure that your child experiences unforgettable moments and will allow him/her to develop his/her physical and intellectual capacities and, above all, will allow him/her to attach more importance to his/her personal identity.

 

 

• 5/ Handle your child’s episodes properly

 

 

It is essential to start by soothing the tensions and calming the little one without insisting too much. If the situation persists and the child ignores you and does not listen to you, monitor his or her behavior from a distance until he or she calms down. Remember that you must also keep your cool and calm and discuss the situation with the other parent, in fact, being severe with a child has never been a solution to calm him down, on the contrary, the child will become more upset.

Lastly, all you have to do is apply these suggestions to ensure a perfect co-parenting relationship!