Tips from Men to Women for a Successful Date

There you have it! After several conversations, you have finally managed to secure a first date with the man you’ve been eyeing. Ladies, pay attention, as an experienced man is here to give you advice. To ensure your meeting goes smoothly, there are some etiquette rules that the male gender appreciates in the opposite sex. So, follow these tips from a man to make your date one you won’t soon forget.

Opt for a Casual Look

First impressions are always important. However, that doesn’t mean you should go all out and wear your most extravagant outfit to meet the man you’re getting to know. The key is to be yourself, but enhanced. If you didn’t catch the subtlety, men like to discover women just as they are, without any fuss, that’s the appropriate word.

Casual or Sporty?

Do you prefer a casual style? Great, stick with that for your date. The mix of chic and casual is appealing. A nice knee-length cotton dress with a pair of Bensimon or Alexander McQueen shoes. Why not?

As for a sporty look, please don’t show up in your workout gear and sneakers. It’s a guaranteed mismatch. Instead, opt for well-fitted jeans that complement your figure. Linen or stretch pants can also work well. Tunics, T-shirts, or blouses, it’s up to your taste. But don’t forget to throw on a little jacket or a lightweight sweater that you can tie around your neck.

And What About Accessories?

When it comes to accessories, men aren’t very focused on trinkets. But why not? Earrings, bracelets, necklaces, you can wear them as you please.

And what about scents? Avoid perfumes that are too strong. It might be best not to wear any at all. Men prefer subtle and delicate scents. They are both intriguing and captivating.

Stay Calm

How do you remain calm? Don’t panic. It’s not a job interview. You have already gotten to know each other online. The man has seen your photo on your profile, and you probably already discussed your respective interests. The reason you decided to meet each other is that there was mutual attraction. So, avoid unnecessary palpitations and displays of emotions. There’s no need to overdo it.

Be Humble

Discuss topics that haven’t been covered online yet. But avoid monopolizing the conversation. Listen to each other. By being yourself, you increase the chances of continuing your date elsewhere.

However, don’t go that far. It’s also essential to keep men intrigued and not rush things. The temptation might be strong, but resist it. It will prevent you from falling into a banal one-night stand scenario. Unless that’s your goal. If, on the other hand, you’re thinking of establishing a relationship and “more if there’s a connection,” wait for subsequent dates to take it further. Because there will be more dates, that’s for sure.

A Dash of Humor

Humor might not be your strongest suit, but men appreciate women who make them laugh. Your sense of humor might not be razor-sharp, but you can give it a try. You might end up laughing together at your jokes, your day, or a little anecdote. The goal, of course, is not to make a fool of yourself but to lighten the mood.

Engage in Conversation

Both of you might be shy, but at some point, the ice needs to be broken. After the initial pleasantries like “nice to meet you” and “pleased to meet you,” you’ll need to move on to other topics. Don’t worry; there will be several subjects you can discuss. There might be some awkward silences at times. Revive the conversation by talking about things you both like, such as travel, cooking, or dancing, for example. You can also share your passion with him. For instance, you could mention that you love painting and admire a particular artwork. Let him ask you questions, and vice versa. The key is to keep the conversation from becoming monotonous.

Avoid Sensitive Topics

The first date is a time for discovery. You agreed to meet to project or at least envision a future with this man. So, there’s no need to talk about your exes. You don’t need to recount your past. Especially, don’t compare the man you’re currently dating with one of your past stories. Otherwise, he might think you haven’t moved on.

No Politics

Politics and first dates don’t mix well. Even if you have strong convictions, it’s neither the time nor the place to discuss them. Your date doesn’t need to know if you lean left, right, or are an environmentalist. Nor does he need to know if you support or oppose the death penalty, same-sex marriages, or surrogate mothers.

No Religion Either

Religion is also one of those sensitive subjects. So, it’s best not to discuss it. Your partner might be atheist or very devout. He might have decided to defy his traditions to meet you. These are undoubtedly questions you’d like to address, but you’ll have plenty of time for that later. Indeed, there’s no need to rush things because everything in its own time.

You might be curious, but don’t overdo it. Learn to give time its time. You’ll have plenty of opportunities to discuss these matters in better circumstances and when the time is right.

Make a Good Impression

The date went well, but it’s time to go. To show your independence, suggest splitting the bill. But of course, he’s the one inviting. And as mentioned earlier, if the encounter was enjoyable, there might be a temptation to continue the evening for a “first time.” Have one last drink at either of your places. This is called fishing. Let him escort you to your car, bus stop, or tram station, and that’s it.

If you’re walking the same way, you can also allow him to accompany you to your home. A little hug or even a kiss will do. Being desired is classy. It’s also a good reason to continue seeing each other.

Of course, the list is still long for a first date to be a success. But the essential thing in the story is for you to remain yourself. The goal is undoubtedly to please and ensure that there’s a connection. However, don’t force things. Both of you will have felt during the meeting if it wouldn’t go any further. In such cases, don’t insist. Let things follow their course. In any case, if the man wants to see you again, he’ll know how to get in touch. Have you thought about exchanging numbers?